The Integration Lab

Build the security that keeps you calm during conflict and creates lasting love.

Take the assessment that's helped over 350 professionals develop unshakeable confidence in their relationships.

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This is for you if:

You're in a long-term committed relationship and you are ready to become the secure influence.

Trust was broken in your relationship & you want to rebuild it by becoming Secure.

You've invested in therapy and your own personal development.

You have incredible self-awareness and you're ready to embody what you already know.

The Integration Lab 🧪

  • Weekly Course Modules

    Weekly Course Modules that guide you through the “3 Steps to Security”. Mikah will assign these modules to you every session that support the stage you’re in

  • Weekly Integration Calls

    Every week, Mikah leads a focused integration session centered on one of the Steps to Security. Each call begins with an introduction to the topic, the tool we’re working with, and an interactive exercise to help you begin practicing secure mindsets, communication frameworks, and embodiment in real time with your fellow cohort members. We close with reflection questions and simple integration homework to continue growing in your relationship.

  • 1:1 Office Hours

    In the Group you are a student, in our 1:1s your the creator; receive nuanced support on your relationship situation; to better apply Security to your life!

    (Available weekly every Monday & Friday)

HOW YOu’re gonna become secure

Hint: It’s a formula,Healing + Integration = ???

  • Relational + somatic practice

    You’ll learn how to notice when you say yes while your body is actually saying no — and what self-abandonment looks like in real time.

    This practice helps you:

    • Identify misalignment early

    • Rebuild trust with your body

    • Stop overriding yourself to keep connection

    You’ll practice this with other cohort members in a grounded, guided way.

  • Power dynamics awareness + repair

    You’ll learn how relationships slip into control, collapse, or over-functioning — and how to step out of those dynamics without escalation.

    This practice focuses on:

    • Identifying when your relationship is in a power dynamic

    • Learning how to pull yourself out of it

    • Practicing secure responses in breakout groups

    This is where relationships stop feeling like emotional chess.

  • 45-minute partnered nervous system exercise

    You’ll practice receiving a clear no while staying regulated, present, and self-connected.

    In this practice you’ll learn how to:

    • Receive rejection without spiraling or shutting down

    • Regulate your nervous system in real time

    • Stay connected to yourself while staying in relationship

    This is done in structured pairs with clear guidance.

  • You’ll learn how to prepare for difficult conversations in a way that keeps you grounded and clear — without rehearsing scripts or bracing for impact.

    This practice helps you:

    • Clarify what you actually want before the conversation

    • Stay present when emotions rise

    • Speak from clarity instead of anxiety or defensiveness

    The focus is on how you show up, not saying the “perfect” thing.

  • Simple body-based awareness practice

    You’ll learn how self-abandonment actually happens in your body — and how to interrupt it.

    This practice teaches you:

    • How you abandon yourself under pressure

    • How to notice it earlier

    • How to choose yourself without disconnecting from others

    This is where internal safety starts to stabilize.

  • Live boundary-setting + refinement practice

    You’ll practice setting boundaries and making invitations in real time — especially in moments that feel uncomfortable, charged, or high-pressure.

    In this practice:

    • Other cohort members offer different imaginary but realistic situations

    • You practice responding using the Secure Boundary Framework

    • You learn by doing, watching others, and refining in the moment

    I’ll be present to:

    • Offer live critique and adjustments

    • Help you soften, clarify, or strengthen your wording

    • Teach you how to set boundaries without over-explaining, collapsing, or escalating

    This builds confidence and ease around boundaries so they stop feeling heavy or confrontational.

  • Real-time relational response practice

    This is a live integration exercise focused on how you show up when things don’t go smoothly.

    You’ll work with a cohort buddy to practice responding securely to common relationship scenarios, such as:

    • Your partner getting defensive

    • Being blamed or misunderstood

    • Emotional tension or misattunement

    The focus is on:

    • Staying grounded instead of reactive

    • Responding from security rather than old patterns

    • Integrating what you’ve learned into real-time interaction

    This practice helps bridge the gap between knowing what secure behavior looks like and actually embodying it in the moment.

Meet Mikah

Attachment Theory • IFS • Somatic EXP . Trauma-Informed • Parts Work +

Here is my story that led to over 350 transformations:

My work didn’t begin because I mastered relationships early. It began because I didn’t.

I fell in love with someone who triggered everything within me—anxious, avoidant, shut down, activated. And despite having done over a decade of personal growth, I found myself asking the question “Am I in the right relationship?” more times in three months than I had in my entire life.

What followed was a year and a half of repair after a major rupture of trust on both sides. That season forced me to take deeper ownership than I ever had before—not just of my behaviors or my patterns, but of how I was actively ruining my own relationship. My nervous system. My reactions. The subtle ways I escalated, collapsed, or abandoned myself without realizing it.

Through that process, I became the secure person in the relationship. The one who wasn’t spiraling, performing, or self-erasing anymore. I became unshakable. Warm. Steady. Calm. Peaceful.

For the past three years, security has been my normal.

The relationship I once dreamed of is now my new normal. Relationships no longer feel like an endless game of traumas, triggers, and self-awareness loops. They feel like a playground for accountability, service, and deep connection. Every cell in my body knows what security feels like—not as a concept, but as a lived state.

There is a simple formula to becoming secure.
And the ingredients for it already live inside of you.


Let’s spend the next three months awakening that security within you—for this relationship, and for the rest of your life.

YOUR NEW REALITY WITH SECURITY

  • 01

    You Stop Being the Anxious One.

     Your partner comes to YOU when they're stressed because you've become the calm, grounded presence in the relationship

  • 02

    Difficult Conversations Don't Derail You

     You can discuss triggers, boundaries, and conflicts without losing yourself or your connection

  • 03

    You Trust Yourself to Handle Whatever Comes


    Whether it's relationship challenges, life stress, or unexpected situations. You know you can navigate it from a secure place

Testimonials

Real words from clients just like you :)

Jessica - Lawyer

6yr relationship,Anxious

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Angie - Head of HR

10yr Marriage, Avoidant

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Cohort 🧪Graduates

Read about their experience below 👇🏽

“These 3 months Saved me at least 2 years of Therapy”

Patrick (Game Developer)

the R.I.S.A. Assessment

(Readiness Indicator of Secure Attachment)

The RISA assessment is the first step into seeing if you’re ready for The Integration Lab. Are you ready to become Secure? We will answer that for you in TWO steps!

1) Complete the Application

2) Look out for a placement call from our team to see if you qualifiy for The Integration Lab

(We only accept 10 people per month)